“Couldn’t find a lecture hall and came in half an hour late with students all staring at me? Check. Stuttered when the tutor asked me to introduce myself? Check. Made zero friends? Check. OMG I checked off the entire list of what could possibly go wrong during my first week of uni. My life is over.”
Okay, slow down there partner. Before you bawl your eyes out and live life as a hermit crab, it’s not too late to turn things around and start over. There are plenty of ways to get you back on track again
University is not high school.
Lectures are larger and professors pay less attention to students as individuals, such as your attendance. This is not to say that arriving to a lecture late is okay since some courses take attendance of lectures more seriously than that of others. As a comforting note, while you might see all eyes on you when you enter that creaky door, students will forget about you in the blink of an eye and therefore will not label you as “the-one-who-was-late-thirty-minutes”. More likely than not, other students will arrive much later than you did.
Tutorials often seem intimidating because of the small class size or the sharp eye of the tutor or you might see yourself as he only dumbo who doesn’t know the answer. But you don’t have to feel that way. Tutorials are designed to challenge your critical thinking. Chances are, many other students in the tute are as intimidated as you. Doing tute-prep, participating in class, paying attention and taking notes are the best ways to sit through tutorials feeling confident.
Hello, it’s me
Making friends is completely up to you. Just be friendly and be yourself. Sounds simple right? Then again there’s that fear of rejection or paralysis of approaching people. Having the butterflies in your stomach is a natural reaction when meeting new students but it’s important to go outside your comfort zone. Honestly, the girl sitting next to you is just as nervous as you are. Break the ice with a friendly greeting and keep a conversation flowing. Who knows? Maybe you two study the same major, share three classes and enjoy the taste of kebabs. Oh, and don’t forget to ask for their Facebook.
One last important thing I cannot stress enough – get social! Make the most out of the clubs you signed up (and paid for) during Orientation Week by attending weekly meetings, keep in the loop by following their Facebook page for special events. Maybe you might have missed out on their meet-and-greet but better now than never. And don’t worry if you didn’t get to Orientation. There are faculty camps that are wonderful bonding experiences, on-campus social parties to meet new people and Facebook pages for each club or society. It will be the best decision you could ever make.
So what are you waiting for? Your first week might have been bad, but learn from your mistakes. Start fresh. Start new. Guaranteed you’ll find university life one of the best times of your life.
Last modified: March 7, 2016